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The Concept Of Rape

Forewarning: The topic of rape applies to every gender, every age and every race, rape can happen to anyone, anytime and anywhere. This piece\article however, is going to be narrowed down to women, it is going to be looked at from a African teen female's point of view [that is myself]. Once again this is based on what I have seen and heard.  Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person's consent.  I find it completely petrifing   that rape is still an ongoing thing in the 21st century, as in 21st century, and I mean like 2019 , once a woman is raped it is undeniably or most likely her fault like she literally could be standing there minding her own business and applying her classic red lip gloss, get shoved into a corner, get raped and it would STILL be all her fault. She is positioned in any of the following most biased categories  "she was asking for it"...
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Our Flawed Educational System

Forewarning:  I am originally from Africa, Nigeria, which is a developing country, I am speaking/typing out of my experience and my own personal knowledge of education in and outside Africa, so yes my thoughts on this topic may or may not be biased, sort of ignorant and inaccurate.        School is- on a normal basis- hell, school is literally depressing and no there are no excuses, nothing about "but the people in it are great" "and you get to learn yay" nope. None of that. Everything about the concept school is sad. You wake up very early in the morning to go somewhere unhygienic, so people can explain to you how to do/solve useless things, your hallway is littered by people you know, don't know, and don't like (there is no in between) also half  or rather more than half of these people are fake and are usually manipulative except for the actually tolerable ones that don't make you feel  completely  like crap, you write tests on the useless...
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What Exactly is "Self-Confidence"

    Acceptance, that is what self-confidence is exactly, being self-confident means accepting yourself for what you stand for and who you are.  You gain self-confidence by; Accepting yourself.      That is literally one of the best things you can do to gain confidence. Actually, it's the only thing you can do.  You see the opposite of self-confidence is doubt and skepticism.        Self-confidence is defined as being assured and certain in your skills           Whereas      Doubt/skepticism is you having a feeling of  uncertainty  or lack conviction           Self-confidence cannot be built in a single day, you cannot just wake up, post a selfie with a "loving myself" caption and decide that you are self-confident. No ma, Self-confidence goes into deep layers, you have to start from deep down in yourself,  you ...
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Choosing "YOUR" right career

It is not at all easy finding something you would want to do for the rest of your life right? Not in the slightest way Choosing a career is one of the scariest thing to do in/before your final year (where I am), cause once you've chosen that career that is going to be your main  source of income for more or less the rest of your life, you cannot just wing  this important decision that defines you as an individual. Careers change over time, they change constantly till you settle down in a spot (career) and this very spot you decide to settle has to be beneficiary, you have to like it and earn from it.  When I was 4, if you'd ask me what I wanted to be, I'd tell you "a fairy" the simpler times right?, I'd want wings and a wand and all of that junk, I was down for spending the rest of my life in the air granting wishes to children and dogs. That was all I wanted to do, to be honest, and at the time, my parents found absolutely nothing wrong with that, the whole i...
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The Aftermath of Heartbreak

     Heartbreak, (unfortunately or fortunately) is one of the most inescapable occurrences in our existence. It's something no one can deny having a share of. As long as you are reading this right now. You have suffered through heartbreak.          And don't get it twisted my friends, I'm not saying majority of you have had your hearts broken by the male or female species. Heartbreak isn't just about: boy sees girl, boy likes girl, girl (from out of freaking nowhere) starts to like boy too, boy asks girl out, girl says yes, boy screws girl over, girl sits in her room, battling depression with chocolate icecream, or vice versa. Heartbreak, or rather the cause of heartbreak comes in different shapes and sizes people.          Heartbreak can actually be cause of so many things; heartbreak could come from, a cartoon character, a cringy TV show, Lion King, most commonly a person or an animal.          M...
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Girl Code

      Girl code is a topic I, as a female and all, am very very familiar with, Girl code is simply a bunch of spoken/unspoken laws that go around the girl community, it's quite like Bro code only difference more of less is repercussions and the fact that Girl code is more universal and what not. Girl code  can easily be explained as a set of rules, ethnics and even beliefs that demands ultimate loyalty to one's female friends above anyone else, be it parents, siblings, and in extreme cases God- no one's above a female    As seen, we as females are all in this cult universally, we're all sisters you know?, As females of the world we're all expected to follow a set of written/unwritten rules in order to keep friendships, at some point in our lives, we've been asked to sacrifice happiness and what we want to do, so we don't lose our female friends To me, personally, I feel girl code is more or less messed up, in most aspects really cause I see no absolute re...
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Worst advice heard about the male specie

As a human, it's involuntarily to have feelings for another person and sometimes when these feelings occur we have no idea how to deal with them especially when it happens for the first time, hell the first time we don't even know or sure if it's a crush, we even feel kinda stupid and sometimes even a bit confused, and sometimes look it up on the internet, I know when I had my first crush I searched different sites on ~"How to know if a guy likes you" ~"How to know if I have feelings for someone", and I'd read these articles and relate them to my everyday life the internet was (and still is) my home But sometimes fortunately or unfortunately some of us don't use the internet to solve such problems we instead turn to the likes of social interactions, most meet best friends for advice or sometimes to form a maniacal plan on how to kidnap the boy and lock him in a cage where he can be with you for the rest of his life. Or no okay either way is fine ...
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