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Financial Aid from a woman

Today I am ranting,

Today I am pouring my heart out and talking about the unfortunate crisis that is sexism 

What is sexism you may ask?

 Well sexism is a situation where guys assume or feel like they are somewhat better than girls, or like girls don't deserve some rights given to them cause their female

Oya wait let's be serious now

Sexism is prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex.

"sexism in language is an offensive reminder of the way the culture sees women"

You can proceed to shake your head as you have seen another one of Chimamanda's children, I don't know but I feel like this shit is an actual problem in Africa and the world as a whole

So let's start with this,

Why is it such a problem for women to offer men money?

I don't get it

Today I was just gisting with one of my male friends and he was telling me about his problems and what not, mainly money issues 

And so I asked

"Should I give you money?"

And my dear people this boy lost it, he started shouting and asking why I would ask him such a question, about how I have offended him and how I have "hurt his ego" and I was just like, guy I'm offering a solution, so I asked now why I can't help,  

And he had the guts to say

"Cause I'm the guy and your the girl, it doesn't work that way"

That was the most heartbreaking statement ever made, I literally felt something shatter in my chest, it made me even feel weak somehow I really just couldn't in that situation, like you were the one telling me in that moment how much you needed money and I am offering the money to you, you are telling me "it doesn't work that way"

I don't understand 


So anyways me being the feminist that I am, I pointed out that uncle your statement was sexist, and he then apologized but still proceeded to tell me about why a female offering a male money isn't right, and how it doesn't make sense, he kept on making a lot of sexist comments along the way even.

So I sat down and thought about it, why is it such a huge deal?, has it become so rare for a female helping out a male financially that it has now been considered abominable?

That it has even become a social vice?

I really do not get it, cause I feel like as a female, if I do have any money to spare, I should be able to offer it to any gender I please without being questioned.

Abi is it pride ni?

That a female giving you money makes you less of a man, or that you feel the woman is going out of her way to get it so it isn't right?

Maybe it's cause a woman offering a man money is like her claiming ownership on the male in question or what?, that it is actually the male's duty to provide financial aid

Let me clear something up

Yes. It is the man's duty to provide for the home but it also the woman's duty as well, see what I'm driving at is equal rights.

Come to think of it anyways I can think of half of the male population deciding that they rather die than accept financial aid from a woman 

I don't get this concept that a woman cannot offer a man money,  I really don't get it, the fact that it's even considered offensive is even more confusing,

Tell me though, is it just the feminist in me speaking, maybe I'm just speaking from a female point of view here and I'm not considering the male population here

Or what do you think?

~Deeola ♡

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