It is not at all easy finding something you would want to do for the rest of your life right?
Not in the slightest way
Choosing a career is one of the scariest thing to do in/before your final year (where I am), cause once you've chosen that career that is going to be your main source of income for more or less the rest of your life, you cannot just wing this important decision that defines you as an individual.
Careers change over time, they change constantly till you settle down in a spot (career) and this very spot you decide to settle has to be beneficiary, you have to like it and earn from it.
When I was 4, if you'd ask me what I wanted to be, I'd tell you "a fairy" the simpler times right?, I'd want wings and a wand and all of that junk, I was down for spending the rest of my life in the air granting wishes to children and dogs. That was all I wanted to do, to be honest, and at the time, my parents found absolutely nothing wrong with that, the whole idea was fabulous to my entire family.
Skip to when I turned 8, during this Hannah Montana era, all I wanted to be was a pop star. I sang in church and got the clothes, stickers, mini guitar and whatever you needed to be a bonified popstar during that time, I was all in for living the best of both worlds, everything seemed so simple, so achievable, I was ready to do whatever it took to become a mini Hannah.
Till those very dreams were completely in shambles.
My Dad on the day came to me grinning one day, a few months after I turned 9, he looked super happy at the time, he sat next to me and asked me "What do I want to be when I grow up?", I gave him an answer.
"A popstar"
My Dad's grin completely disappeared and I sat down wondering if I had said anything wrong, at that time I was in Grade 5 (Nigerian systems aren't based on age by the way so I was pretty young to be in Grade 7), My Dad stared at me for a while, gave me that look, you know that look that parents give their children when their deciding if their child is old enough to have this piece of information that would most likely ruin their childhood.
"What if you don't get to be a pop star?" My dad finally asked.
I. Was. Dazed.
In my mind, I thought "Of course I'm going to be a pop star, have you heard me belt out Adele, and plus I have the guitar so why would you say that?!", but then he kept on going, I can't remember most of what he said, but I know I was completely shattered, my little child heart; broken.
He had spoken about things along the line of "picking a more stable career" and "you're never going to be a pop star" and started talking about "becoming a doctor", I just sat there in awe. I was confused,
I mean it was completely mean of him to kill my dreams like that and maybe, just maybe if I kept of living the best of both worlds, he may have been wrong. But let me tell you the truth, at that time I did have an okay voice, I wasn't any Adele but my voice was average. I didn't have skill.
You see choosing a career has little to nothing to do with your "passion"', you could have a passion for cooking but as long as you still
don't understand how instant noodles work, you are bound to fail at cooking.
It takes skill as well to pursue your dream, you need to know like to cook before deciding you want to learn how to cook. You can't do something you don't like doing, except if you're doing chores, you have to like your choice of career to genuinely learn and understand it. Cause your career is most likely for life.
Skill is basically the product of passion if you really do have a passion for cooking, learn it, take your time and learn it, as long as your good at it, it doesn't take long to be successful.
No one is just successful overnight (except the Kardashians), you have to work at it, especially if that's what you see yourself doing for the rest of your life.
That's one of the vital things about careers, they are usually almost always for life. You can't change your career in the middle of your 50s and decide you want to be a footballer. You should have trained for that when you were younger.
Who knows if I had stuck with my Hannah Montana dream maybe I would be in the studio recording my first album, but right now I'm preparing for my finals to become a successful Lawyer, no I was not forced to become a lawyer, I have a passion for bringing people to justice. I have a flair for the truth. but you see picking a career takes just passion. But failing that career, pulling through with it, and being successful,
That takes skill.
Take your time with what you want to become, love it and understand it
You (most likely) won't go wrong.
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